28 Sep 2017

Breathe and be Kind

It's very easy to get caught up in the moment and often we’re so busy with what’s going on in our own lives that we forget there are others around us. Just for a moment, take a step back and breathe, forget about what’s happening and just relax.

Honestly, breath in and breath out - don't hyperventilate but try to calm everything inside of you and think about how much more you can give back if you had more to give... We as humans are constantly draining ourselves by trying to be the right person for everyone when really all we need to do is be the right person for ourselves - in that way we will attract the right people for us and we'll be able to give those few people more than we've ever given to others.

In breathing and calming yourself you are able to be a nicer person on the whole, us anxiety stricken people can allow the "demons" within to sleep while we control what we can day by day - by breathing and taking a second for yourself you can see the nice in the world, the wonder and the splendor and allow yourself to then be kind to others. You never know maybe their struggle is just like yours - heavy... so lighten the weight a little...

Today just pay a stranger a compliment, it doesn’t matter what it is as long as it’s something nice about the person. You never know whose day you’re making just by telling them they look nice or just by doing something as natural as smiling, and the bonus is, when you see how happy it makes them - the feeling you get will be just as rewarding.

With Love

Ash and Des 

18 Sep 2017


When did #LikeAGirl become a bad thing? For long enough #LikeAGirl has been made out to be a bad or demeaning term. But why? Who says that doing anything #LikeAGirl can’t be a GREAT thing? An EMPOWERING thing, something that brings us all together?

Girls, WE are stronger than we think, and doing things #LikeAGirl is just fine, actually it’s more than just fine…it’s AMAZING. Doing things #LikeAGirl means you to do things others wouldn't necessarily think you're capable of, means you're doing something that has been classified not worthy for someone to do.

So what if you throw, hit, run, jump, exercise, read, write, play games or even dress #LikeAGirl? Guess what? YOU ARE A GIRL & an amazing one at that, we shouldn’t let a few words stop us from being the GREAT beings that we are. From now on I'm doing everything in my power to do everything I can #LikeAGIRL.

We have to give all the credit for this awesome progress of the #LikeAGirl campaign, to the amazing people @Always for showing us girls what it means to be a girl & that it’s OKAY to do things #LikeAGirl. Thank you so much Always, for changing people’s perception of what it means to do anything #LikeAGirl, without you we wouldn’t have come so far.

With Love <3
Ash and Des

15 Sep 2017

When I can....

I'll never understand the reasons people have for judging others who have admitted that they can't do something or they have bitten off more than the can chew. If I am explaining to you my inability to do something, it's not because I'm just giving up, it's not because I think I'm better than you and it's certainly not so that you can tell me, "Ag, you can man!! You just need to put your mind to it." If I'm explaining to you that I can't do something, its for the reason that at this moment in time I CANNOT HANDLE IT!

I am someone with a lot on my plate, a lot more than I can chew... So I'm scaling down, as much as possible I am removing obstacles from my path and I am setting myself free, from this constant guilt that I've been carrying around. Guilt about my inability to handle my workload, my social life (which has now I think evaporated into thin air because I can never make social events), my inactivity as a friend, my inability to be friendly to my partner on most days because my head is so full of guilt about other things... and the list goes on and on and on.

I truly feel like I am living through a mental break down, it may not be whats truly happening to me at this point in time and I've never had one so I really am just going on instinct here, but that's the only way I have to describe it.

I am constantly anxious, to the point where I get headache from clenching on my teeth, I am shaking all the time, I can't regulate my temperature, my hands and feet are sweaty, I wake up coughing and gasping for air almost every morning around 3/4, I can't sleep (anyone who knows me can attest that this is HUGE deal to me). When I do sleep I'm plagued by strange dreams that don't allow me any rest, and then I wake up periodically. My throat just closes on me, which is a painful experience on its own... these are just the "major" issues..

It's been so long since I felt truly relaxed that I don't think I would recognize the feeling.

So I am empowering myself by not forcing me to do anything that I feel I cannot complete or cannot do. I am empowering me by making time for myself, I am HEALING me for MY benefit and unfortunately for those people that don't understand this, that don't understand me, I am focusing on me again.....

I will rise again though, I will get better and I will keep moving mountains - when I can (this has become my answer for most things) - because I'm teaching myself how to set limits, how to say NO and how to stop feeling guilty for the world's problems with me. It's okay to be not okay for a while, its okay to find your strength while others think you're weak and it's okay to rise out of the ashes like a phoenix and show those that thought you were weak, never to underestimate someone who has made time for themselves.

My Phoenix Tattoo is my Daily Reminder

29 Aug 2017

Dear Oupa

Okay so here goes...

My heart is beating out of my chest, but I have to write this now, or I probably never will.

Dear Oupa,

It's taken me a while to write this down and actually express what I feel about losing you - I guess I haven't been able to because it was too soon after Ouma, I was still reeling from the emotional roller coaster I'd been on, when we lost you too... I have been speechless since.

There are many different excuses I can pull out for the reasons why I never actually got to know you, for the reasons why I didn't spend more time with you, for the reasons that I haven't been able to write anything about you, but none of them matter, and none of them ever will again; no matter what I say now, here, I will never be able to get back precious moments that I took for granted.

I'm writing this now because I stumbled across a photo on Facebook of you, it was a picture that was posted years ago, you look so young, so full of life; one thing that will stick with me forever is that you were always laughing, always making comments, always being as sarcastic as before - its hard to picture a world where I won't ever get to hear about loeries and their ostrich sized eggs, its hard to picture a world where I won't ever hear you chatting to the birds as you fed them, it's hard to picture a world without you.

But I guess I have to, I can just be happy that you're not in anymore pain, that you are no longer scared and that you can now see how much we all love and adore you.

I love you Oupa and are missed every single day...

28 Aug 2017


Today is one of those empty days.
The days where I feel alone
I have no one
No one cares
Everything is going to go wrong
Everything I do is not good enough
I have no energy to do anything
I have no motivation to even try and work

Today is the day where I feel lost
Where I am fighting the monster from my nightmares
But only he’s here
Right by me
Staring over my shoulder
Snickering as I type every word
Pushing those doubtful thoughts into my head

Today is a day where I wish to just close my eyes forever
I have no reason to feel like this,
I had a fantastic weekend,
I have amazing friends,
I have an amazing family that cares,
I have NO reason to feel empty and lost
I do
And I feel it terribly.

Today is a day where the battle is within me
I fight the monsters that tell me,
“You’re no good”
“You’re a failure”
“Everyone hates you”.

Today is the day that will remind me tomorrow how strong I am.
Today is the day that will remind me tomorrow that I can overcome anything.
Today is the day that will remind me tomorrow that I am never alone.

Today is the day that will remind me tomorrow that I made one more day.

By Anonymous.